Worry is like sitting in a rocking chair……………
Posted on: 3rd September 2018
Worry is like sitting in a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere” Erma Bombeck Worry is something which affects all of us be it about a job interview, our relationships, health issues or getting enough work if you are self-employed, getting on with a difficult boss or simply growing older. Our worries tend to focus on what may happen so we live in the future. Its ruins our capacity to live and enjoy the present. Our worry may motivate us to be overprotective so that we continually check something. We may avoid situations or people to avoid setting off our worry or seek constant reassurance from others. We often fear people may think of us being odd, stupid or just plain weird. Once a worry has passed, we may feel relief but often this is accompanied by physical and emotional exhaustion. A central part of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is that the view we take of a situation or event has a profound effect on how we feel and behave. Loss of a job could provoke different emotions such as shock, depression, fear or even relief. A pregnancy, to someone longing for a child, may be joyful news, however a single woman of 16, still at school with hopes of a career in medicine may take a different view. A CBT approach will then look at the very strong relationship between our thoughts, feelings and actions. What were the “what if ” statements that triggered your worry? How did you feel when you had this thought? When you felt like this what did you do? What sensations did you have in your body? How did you feel after you stopped worrying? An excellent self-help book to help you take a CBT approach to worry is Overcoming Worry and General Anxiety Disorder by Kevin Meares and Mark Freeston (2015) In terms of other practical solutions:
- Stop the “what ifs’”
- Stay in the moment
- Try not to loose sleep
- Try meditation
- Manage problems and problem solve
- Deal with uncertainty
- Make a positive effort to lift your mood as negative emotions such as anxiety, anger, sadness as well as tiredness and pain fuel worry.
- Postpone worry
- Set time aside for worry such as when having a shower in the morning
- Distract yourself
Worry can be managed by practice and by using some if not all of these techniques. If you find that worry is becoming unmanageable in your life then maybe counselling would help. It takes courage to admit to and work on emotional problems but the benefits far outweigh the disadvantages. I have a special interest in managing anxiety and worry, so please get in touch if you feel I can assist either by texting 07891593571 or email email@example.com
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